Clear Communication with Family

Getting caught up in the focus of how you want your wedding to be can unintentionally leave people who care about you and your wedding in the dust. Don’t let this happen to you and those you care about.

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Planning your wedding can be really exciting, and you can easily get caught up in the excitement, charging forward, and making plans for the wedding and not even realizing people who are close to you may also have had years of ideas, thoughts, and dreams involving your wedding.

It is a good idea to take a moment and consider their thoughts and ideas before you make significant commitments. Taking time to include others in the joy and excitement of the planning doesn’t mean you have to follow their suggestions, but it is respectful to listen to them and hear what their ideas are and why they may have had these dreams. It can be hard to realize that maybe your parents or your finance’s parents have been thinking of your wedding day longer than you have.

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As a member of Wedding State University, we have a section that is totally dedicated to a family meeting where we help walk our members through communicating with families. In our family section, we suggest having a meeting with those who are involved with the wedding, this gives a great opportunity for everyone to share their ideas, hopes, and dreams.

Typically as with all generation gaps, it can be hard to understand each person’s perspective. Mom or grandma may never have heard of wearing a tuxedo with tennis shoes or playing games at the reception. In their day, these things may have been considered poor taste or even disrespectful. Try not to get offended by a negative comment from them. Just understand that they may not know how common these “new” ideas are. We suggest showing your Pinterest boards, Instagram, Youtube, and even magazine photos or even simple internet searches to show your ideas. After they see if they may change their mind.

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If they don’t come around as quickly as you had hoped, give it a little time. They may decide to do a little research on their own and find out they may end up embracing the idea. Don’t give up on the first try.

As with all relationships, open and honest, clear communication is always the best. Happy Planning!

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Setting Your Priorities

As you travel through your planning process, it is easy to forget what was important to you in the beginning of your planning. Refer back to this priority to keep your focus clear and stay on track.

Many couples go over budget and get out of control in their spending during the wedding planning process. However, if the couple stays focused and learns the proper way to plan, this can be avoided.

bigstock-Young-Couple-Saving-Money-6087764 (2).jpgIn the beginning, there may be several things that just don’t seem to be all that important, and they decide to give those items a small budget. However, later on when the couple begins to shop for these items, they can get caught up in the all the details and extras and get off track, resulting in overspending.

Let us take a look at an example of a common item couples go over budget on, invitations. At the start the couple may think, “We don’t need to spend a lot on invitations, people will just be throwing them away.”  Then once they begin the actual selection process, their feelings change, and they suddenly are viewing invitations as very important. They start adding nicer font, custom monograms, upgraded paper, ribbons, and jewels.  A $3.00 invitation has now turned into a $15.00 invitation and they can’t imagine going back to the original. To the couple, it might not seem like a big deal, just a few dollars. When you multiply it by all of the invitations that need to be mailed and add postage, they just went $1,200 over budget on a 100 person invite list.

Now if this can happen with something they thought was so unimportant to begin with, imagine what can happen with items are viewed as very important from the start.

To help stay on course, we have developed a priority list that can be filled out at the beginning of each planning phase and then it can be referred back to whenever you start to veer off track.

Download your free Priority list here: Priority List

Happy Planning!

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Wealth of Information Verse Truth

Learn the secrets to wedding planning the experts don’t want you to know.

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Top Planning Site’s Advice to Begin Your Wedding Planning:

  1. Start a wedding folder or binder.

    Begin leafing through bridal, lifestyle, fashion, gardening, design, and food magazines for inspiration.

  2. Work out your budget.

    Determine how much you have to spend, based on your families’ contributions and your own.

  3. Pick your wedding party.

    As soon as you’re engaged, people will start wondering who’s in.

  4. Start the guest list.

    Make a head count database to use throughout your planning process, with columns for contact info, RSVPs, gifts, and any other relevant information. (Want to keep costs low? It may be brutal, but the best way to do it is to reduce your guest list.)

  5. Hire a planner, if desired. A planner will have relationships with—and insights about—vendors.

  6. Reserve your date and venues.

    Decide whether to have separate locations for the ceremony and the reception, factoring in travel time between the two places.

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Envision your wedding and draw up a budget.

Assemble your “planning team.” Consider hiring a wedding consultant.

Pick a wedding date and time. Select several options, then check with your venues, officiant, and important guests before finalizing.

Start planning the guest list.

Look for and book ceremony sites and reception sites.

Ask friends and relatives to be in the wedding party.

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  1. Make the announcement: Some couples just don’t feel right if anyone knows their big news before their parents and other close family members do. If possible, tell both sets of folks in person. If your parents don’t live nearby, put in a special phone call.
  2. Delve into dreams: Sit down with your fiancé and talk ideas. Think about the style you’d like, whether it’s a beach bash, a sit-down dinner in a ballroom or a ceremony on a mountaintop. No talk of money. Yet.
  3. Rough out the timing: While you don’t have to set a firm date now, it’s smart to have an idea of what month or season you want to marry in. Then you’ll know how long you have to get things organized. Because your wedding’s size determines where you’ll hold the party, how much it will cost (prices usually rise per guest) and whether travel will be involved, creating a guest list is one of the most important things to do. So make your list; your fiancé and both families should do the same. You can, and likely will, cut later, but this first number will be your base.
  4. Now talk money: It’s rare these days that the bride’s parents pick up the whole bill, so decide on your bottom line. Find out from both sets of parents if or how much they can contribute.
  5. Get organized: Buy a notebook and separate it into sections for each budget category. This way you can write down the amount you want to spend on the item and then note your expenditures. As you near your limits, you can start to figure out ways to cut costs.

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I can tell you with over 30 years experience serving the wedding industry  that if anyone follows this advice, they will definitely get themselves into trouble.

I wanted to see what help was out there for people planning their wedding. So, I chose the top 3 sites I came to when conducting an internet search for “how to plan a wedding”.  I copied exactly what they posted in order of the top 5 or 6 things they suggest to do in planning your wedding.

Normally, I would give credit to a site I was copying the information from.  In this case I have decided not too do that.  I am not going to give credit to the site, because I actually appreciate their sites for a lot of tools they provide. However, their planning advice is in a large part of the problems couple face today.

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Often wedding planning sites are built by well-intentioned people who have not experience in planning weddings and provide information that they think sounds right, but it is not the correct information.  I am confident they think they are providing good information.  Typically, they borrow information from other resources and rewrite it to make more sense to the writer.  The biggest problem is, the information does not usually come from and experienced wedding planner.

You may ask yourself, why don’t they get information from an experienced Wedding Planner? That seems like a no-brainer, right?  Well if you think about it, why would a Wedding Planner want to give someone information about how to plan a wedding on their own? People hire a wedding planner to do the planning for them and many of them think if they tell everyone how to do it, then they won’t have anyone hire them.  So, they keep it secrets safe.  They allow everyone to keep struggling through their planning and getting stressed out.

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With this wealth of information out there, you would think planning should be a breeze, but to the contrary, couples now more than ever have more stress and trouble than they ever have.  Wedding Planning stress arises from many reasons and all of them have reasonable solutions.  At Wedding State University we want to blow the lid off of all these secrets and by becoming a member you will learn how to plan your wedding the correct way and learn all the secrets you need to plan your ultimate stress free wedding day.

To avoid stress and learn to plan your wedding your way visit our site: http://www.weddingstateuniversity.com